Friday, January 07, 2011

Condoms in fiction

Here's an interesting article from authors with a couple of views on the use of condoms in fiction. And another about fictional condoms, particularly in m/m fiction.

My personal view is that fiction is not really subject to rules, and that each fictional situation is different in any case. I'm uneasy about fiction that preaches, yet I'm also uneasy about fiction that wilfully and without question propogates risky and perhaps very subtle subtexts, such as 'we may pretend condoms are okay, but really everyone knows the BEST sex is only bareback'. 

Sometimes I get the impression people are trying to push those old, tired arguments about condoms spoiling sensation or being a passion-killer with the angle that 'fantasy' sex should be condom free. It's the presumption that condoms are unsexy that I'd question.

Basically, I think there are no 'shoulds' in fiction.

6 comments:

Jo said...

It's odd, sometimes I REALLY notice when there's no condoms, and sometimes I feel like I'm being preached to when there is and it's overstated. ]

It's a tough one.

Danielle said...

like i already said..in real life i always use condoms..in fiction never..because..in fiction only that happends whats menat to be...you dont get sick, pregnant or die unless thats the storyline...

i know that many readers (like in porn movies) prefer their fiction without condoms for whatever reason...

i dont think that condoms are unsexy..i also dont think that condoms kill the passion or whatever...condoms save lifes...thats it after all...but i dont wanna be forced by submission guideline sto write about condoms...

i also hate it when writers "preach" ..its one thing to just mention the condom and to move on..another..like a famous female german writer...always make it a whole debate about how one is responsible and has to use them...THAT is clearly a killer for the readers passion...

funilly it was one of your stories (nikki) in which i ever really noticed a condom as perfectly imvolved in teh storyline as it should be in real life.....

Nikki Magennis said...

Jo, sometimes I think the tough areas are the most interesting, no?

Danielle, thank you very much! I don't always write them in, it depends on the scene and level of detail and various other stuff.

Jo said...

Yeah, I think it's a case by case issue on this one though. As you say, no shoulds or preaching.

I read Alison's Thanksgiving story about chocolate sauce and condoms and Violet Blue's cautionary note in the comments about never mixing oil and chocolate.

So, do erotica writers have a duty to educate and stay safe, or does anything go in fiction.

I hope anyone reading erotica is also educating themselves about sex. I suspect they are, but maybe that's just me, I dunno. I think the two areas go together, but don't have to come together as such. Set ups like GOod Vibrations magazine are great, and where I started reading online erotica - you get the fiction and the fact in one handy website.

Emerald said...

I hear you Nikki—I myself find condoms incredibly sexy because, well, they allow me to have sex. :) The fact is, I feel as though I simply wouldn't (at least not the way I have tended to historically go about having it...often with strangers, multiple partners, etc.) if condoms weren't available.

So again, I definitely find them sexy! When the little package gets pulled out or I hear it rip open, it means I'm about to get some—very sexy indeed. ;)

Oh, and thanks for the links (I just typed "kinks," lol). I look forward to checking them out.

Danielle said...

:-) you did in that story..very well..it was..hm..i dunno the title anymore..but i think the book was called sex with strangers? and the story was about an artist who stole the model which was the to pose for another artist??? do i remember that right???